"Pro-life is an extremist position, not a moral position. We should compromise and work to reduce abortions. Where's the compromise between life and death - and why work to reduce the number of them occurring if there's nothing wrong with them?" - Rush Limbaugh
It pains me greatly to quote Rush Limbaugh; however, on this occasion, the man makes a decent point. I think, in fact, he makes a very good point: Abortion is not a simple issue, and there is no real right or wrong answer to the problem. There are so many factors to consider that it becomes difficult to come to a solid stance, in the first place. Further, he hints that the Pro-Life views on abortion are an extremist position. Pro-Life people will argue for no abortions at all, and the most ardent Pro-Choice people will argue for no restrictions, at all. Should it be banned? Should it be completely unregulated? Neither, is a practical option. Who would argue that a woman should have to raise the child of a rapist, molester, or that she should choose to die, rather than having an abortion that would save her life? On the opposite side of the aisle, who would argue that it is OK to terminate a pregnancy that is of no harm to the mother, comes from a consensual interaction, or that is at a stage to where the child could survive outside of the womb? Why do men that argue for a more balanced approach to abortion always get tagged as Anti-Woman?
Why is it that men, only accounting for consensual interactions, have no choice in a such a life changing matter? The child would not exist without their contribution. They are just as invested in the mistake, if it was a mistake at all, as the women are. How are we going to provide for a baby when we still live with our parents? How can we support a child with the jobs we have? Am I going to have to leave school? Will the mother want to keep the child? How will if affect us mentally, if she gets an abortion? Would the mother be willing to raise the child together, or would she prefer that I pay child support? Would she be willing to relinquish custody to me? Why is that responsible men are demonized? We have a drive to procreate, perhaps stronger, just as women do. There should be a point somewhere early on in the process where we are allowed to make a decision for ourselves, and are able to offer our assistance, before our progeny is simply terminated. This is a difficult thing to talk about, i do understand, but like the other topics I have touched on before, this discussion has to be had. Hopefully, it won't get any nastier that it already has.
As I attempt to walk a fine line between a Pro-Life asshole and a Pro-Choice fanatic, I argue that the father of the child should have a choice in the matter; as well, and if the parents are under age, the parents' families should have the choice in the matter. Children are not equipped to deal with a situation of this magnitude on their own. This is the future of someone's family that hangs in the balance, and no matter what any woman says, this type of decision is just as important for the man as it is the woman. Men of all stripes have forced themselves to set their ambitions aside when it comes to raising a family. To most able bodied men, the thought of having a child may be a little unnerving at first, but in the end, the child comes to be the most important part of their lives. That child is their future. If the whole thing is controlled entirely by the woman, the man is never given a chance to make his stance known, and likely, if he were to be included in the very beginning, it is likely that the first words out of his mouth to the woman carrying his child would be, "What do you want to do?" Men are just not always given that option. Real men are not quite as foolhardy as the American media makes us out to be, and the majority of the time, if we are treated with respect, we will do anything to ensure that our family is taken care off. This is, to the point that we will even deprive ourselves in order to provide for the rest of the family, especially the woman that has given us, or is giving us, children.
Where that energy then comes from and where it goes, is also a controversial issue. Many people would argue that heaven and hell are the origins and resting places of that energy. If those places were not imaginations of the human mind, it would actually line up with the theory on the issue of energy. However, they are. What is not an imagination of the human mind is the fact that this planet is alive. It reacts to being damaged, it provides food for its inhabitants, and it replenishes it self. It has just as much of a right to exist as we do, and our energy would not exist without it. Humble thanks, Mother Gaia. So, what does this say about what abortion is? If all life exists pre-womb and never actually dies, but rather, gets recycled by the planet that gave us all life, what does this really mean? It means that abortion, to the delight of all the Pro-Life supporters, is no more different than Infanticide.
To bring this to a quick end, a well informed decision is the best decision the couple, whichever way they go, could ever possibly make. The argument is simple. Abortion is not a cure for fear or irresponsibility, and the father of the child deserves the right to be a part of the decision making process, too. This is a controversial topic, and this post is hardly as in-depth as it could be. If this is not middle of the road enough for some people, or it is too middle of the road for other people, they can feel free to offer another option that respects the rights of both the man and the woman. Further, if you are willing to manage the subsequent bar brawl, feel free to bring the rights of the child into the discussion. This is, ultimately, just the opinion of a Texas Liberal, who is well versed in the principles of fairness and equality. If this argument were to delve into the rights of the child; though, a book might end up getting published, so I'll leave it at this.